| Woohoo! I'm going to talk about sex. Not particular acts of raw sexuality, however. Sorry to dissapoint. Instead, I want to talk about people's relationships to their bodies and how that affects their sexuality. Here's the deal. It seems like a lot of people have a really weird relationship with their bodies. By this I mean there is apparently a lot of embarrassment and even fear. Look. You have to live in your body 24x7 so you may as well get comfortable. DONT BUY IN! The media wants to wreck your self-image. Insecure people buy more. I suppose it's a shame we can't all look like super-models. No. Nevermind. It isn't at all. Can you imagine how boring the same perky boobs and washboard tummies would get after a while? The wonderful truth is we can't. They start the race ahead. They have won the genetic lottery for looks... at least, a particular kind of looks. We will have to settle for being gifted in other ways... I, for one, am counting my blessings. I bet your average super-model has to spend hours a day with a personal trainer busting ass to keep looking that way. Besides, unless they are uber-lucky they're going to put on some pounds and grey up like the rest of us. Bear with me, here. What I'm advocating is taking pride in your body however it may look. In the grave we'll all look the same, anyway. Don't ever take any shit from anyone about your shape, weight, etc. Who are they to talk? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Don't tolerate shallow people. Now the other half of the problem: fear. Some people are actually afraid of their bodies. I can't relate here. If you are, please help me understand why. I can only guess it's the dying remnants of some moldy puritan ethic. Trust me on this one: you will not be struck down for knowing, or god forfend, touching your body. If you don't masturbate because it's against your beliefs... that's one thing. I have a lot of respect for you. But, being afraid of your body and it's function is a whole different ball'o'wax (tm). That will usually leave you ignorant and confused. This sounds to me like a recipe for teenage pregnancy. I have to think that sex is going to be a little weird for you if you are uncomfortable in your own skin. How can you presume to touch someone else's, for starters? You are also missing out on some great aspects of your sexuality. *sigh* I'm sorry folks... I have to abandon this theme for now. I thought I had it better thought out than I do. Sorry for rambling. In other news the weather here is astoundingly gorgeous. In Oklahoma that usually means we're in for it. It's September 21... we had a high in the low 80's and beautifully clear skies. Be afraid. Some stuff Wow. Check me out. I have yet another web comic for your befuddlement. Check out http://www.reallifecomics.com. It's a little geek-specific but, in that specialized realm, it's quite funny. Today I think I'll recommend some classical music. Go out and listen to Resphighi's Pines of Rome. I think you'll dig it. My high-school band played it. It's one of those pieces that is fun to play and listen to. The last movement is particularly satisfying. There is some very cool oboe and the mental image the tune weaves is very satisying (My brain is weird, though). NPR factoid: Apparently 75% of women are wearing bras that don't fit them properly. Who knew? Gals, this is bad for your boobs. Possibly worse than not wearing a bra. Do a web search for slick ninja. She's a riot grrrl in Louisiana. Her website is a lot more personal and prettier than mine and she says and does interesting things to boot. Go! Go forth and visit Millsville. "In this place it feels like such a shame. Though it all looks different now I know it's still the same. This thing is slowly taking me apart. Grey would be the colour, if I had a heart..." As always, if this sparks you or you want to share something with me, please do so. |